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WHY SHOULD I MARRY YOU? (Islamic story 2)

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Once there was a very handsome, pious, well educated young man, whose
parents emphasised for him to get
married. They had seen so many marriage proposals, and he had turned them all down. The parents thought it was becoming a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have someone else in mind. However every time the parents left the girls house, the yo...ung man would always say she's not the one!
The young man only wanted a girl who
was religious and practising, however
one evening his mother arranged for
him, to meet a girl, who was religious,
and practising. On that evening, the
young man, and girl, were left to talk,
and ask each other questions. (As one
would expect).

The young man, being a gentleman that
he was allowed, the lady to ask first.
The young girl asked the young man so
many questions, she asked about his
life, his education, his friends, his family,
his habits, his hobbies, his lifestyle, his
enjoyment, his pastime, his experiences,
his shoe size......

The young man replied to all of her
questions, without tiring, and politely,
with a smile the young girl took up
nearly all of the time, over an hour, and
felt bad, and asked the young man do
you have any questions?
--------------- --------------- -----
The young man said, it's ok. I only have
3 questions...The young girl thought,
Wow, ONLY 3 questions okay, shoot
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The young man's 1st question was,

Q1: Who do you love the most in the
world, someone who's love nothing
would ever overcome?
A1: She said, this is an easy question; my mother, he smiled
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Q2: 2nd question, he asked, you said
that you read a lot of qur'an, could you
tell me which surahs you know the
meaning of?
A2: Hearing this she went red and
embarrassed and said, I do not know
the meaning of any yet, but I am hoping
to soon insha'allah I've just been a bit
busy
--------------- --------------- -----
Q3: The 3rd question the young man
asked was, I have been approached for
my hand in marriage, by girls that are a
lot more prettier than you Why should I
marry you?
A3: Hearing this the young girl was
outraged, she stormed off to her
parents with fury, and said I do not
want to marry this man he is insulting
my beauty, and intelligence. And the
young man and his parents, were once
again, left without an agreement of
marriage. This time, the young mans
parents were really angry, and said
what did you do to anger that girl, the
family were so nice, and pleasant, and
they were religious like you wanted.
What did you ask the girl?? Tell us!
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1. The young man said, firstly I asked
her, who do you love the most? she
said, her mother, The parents said so,
what is wrong with that? The young
man said,'no one, is Muslim, until he
loves Allah, and his messenger (saw)
more than anyone else in the world'. If a
woman loves Allah and the Prophet (pbuh) more than anyone, she will love
me and respect me, and stay faithful to
me, because of that love, and fear for
Allah (swt). and we can share this love,
because this love is greater than lust for
beauty.
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2. The young man said, then I asked,
you read a lot of qur'an, can you tell me
the meaning of any surah? And she said
no, because I haven't had time yet. so I
thought of that hadith 'ALL humans, are
dead except for those who have
knowledge' She has lived 20 years and
not found ANY time, to seek knowledge,
why would I marry a woman, who does
not know her rights, and responsibilities, and what will she teach my children,
except how to be negligent, because
the woman IS the madrasa (school) and
the best of teachers. And a woman who
has no time for Allah, will not have time
for her husband.
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3. The third question I asked her was,
that a lot of girls, more prettier than her,
had approached me for marriage, why
should I choose you? That is why she
stormed off, getting angry. The young
man's parents said that is a horrible
thing to say, why would you do such a
thing, we are going back there to
apologies. The young man said I said
this on purpose, to test whether she
could control her anger. The Prophet (saw) said 'do not get angry, do not get
angry, do not get angry' when asked
how to become pious; because anger is
from Satan. If a woman cannot control
her anger with a stranger she has just
met, do you think she will be able to
control it with her husband??

So, the moral of this story is, a marriage
is based on:
*knowledge, not ONLY Out Looking (Beauty) !
*practice, not preaching/recitation only (millions of reciters are there) !
*Forgiveness, not Anger !
*Spiritual love, not Lust !
*and Compromise !

One should look for a person who
1) Has love for Allah (swt) and the
messenger (saw)
2) Has knowledge of the deen, and can
act upon it.
3) can control their anger
4) and willing to compromise.

And it goes both ways, so women seeking a man, should look for the same things.
Aisha'h r.a reports "one day I was on a
camel which was somewhat difficult to
control and the Prophet s.a.w remarked
"you must be compassionate, whenever there is compassion in something it adorns it, and when it is removed from something it disgraces it".

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